Women don’t want to date Peter Pan and it’s easy to understand why men get stuck with the Peter Pan label.What little kid wasn’t inspired by the story of Peter Pan.He never grows up (nor does he want to), he spends most of his time hanging out with his friends (the Lost Boys), he flirts shamelessly with Tinker Bell, he is an adventurer – if not an adrenaline junkie sparring with Hook, and he completely charms sweet Wendy and her brothers. M Barrie was writing a children’s story not a dating archetype, but today’s lifestyle has turned the idyllic childhood character into a dating nightmare.Look at the character of Ray on “Girls.” He admits to being a 31-year old loser that works at a coffee shop and has absolutely no career aspirations.He secretly starts living with his much younger girlfriend (by staying there every night until she realizes he is completely living with her… Ray is an honest, smart, charming guy, but totally a Peter Pan type of guy and does nothing to change it. Staying childish and responsibility-free is not only unsexy, it’s unmasculine.For every Peter Pan type of guy, remember Wendy does grow up, leaving Neverland and Peter behind.Back in 2011 Wall Street Journal ran an article “Where Have the Good Men Gone? It described how, “Today, most men in their 20s hang out in a novel sort of limbo, a hybrid state of semi-hormonal adolescence and responsible self-reliance.” Most women can recount dating a Peter Pan guy that didn’t have a car, a job, and lived with four other guys in a house that always smelled like wet dog and dirty socks. According to that Wall Street Journal article women, ”graduate from college in greater numbers… As most professors tell it, they also have more confidence and drive.
However, women seem to be better at the figuring it out part.The Peter Pan guy is a fun boyfriend in college, but he’ll pale in comparison to a hard-working, determined guy in the real world. Women want and do earn their own living these days.Don’t confuse women wanting a sugar daddy, for women wanting a real MAN. Remember Seth Rogan and Katherine Heigl in He is the lovable slacker while she is the ambitious career woman.It’s not fair or attractive to be in a relationship with only one functioning adult. Millions of dollars have been made from overgrown Peter Pan type actors: Adam Sandler, Will Ferrell, Steve Carell, Seth Rogen, Jason Segel, Ashton Kutcher, etc.However, in real life these actors are hardworking guys.They run production companies, writing and produce films, and are creating a brand for themselves.